Sugar Dating is very real in the society today. There are many successful and mature Sugar Daddies waiting to get into a relationship with Sugar Babies today. If you are one of the many willing Sugar Babies, you will definitely want as much of an advantage as possible to capture the attention of a SD. Keep in mind, sugar dating is more transactional than romantic. You need to be very sure of what you are entering into before anything else. The following tips will help.
1. Keep it Secret; Keep it Safe
It’s hard to tell if a Sugar Daddy is single or not, and it’s not your place to insist on knowing that information, whether he’s upfront about it or not. Although, it’s a good idea to discreetly find out for your protection, and so you can behave accordingly. As a Sugar Baby, it’s best and safest, that unless he encourages being seen in public and on social media, that you should be discreet about your SD/SB relationship. He is relying on you not to betray that trust for whatever reason that it might be necessary. You don’t get to make the decision on how public your relationship is, so follow his lead, and if you’re unsure, simply err on the side of caution and be silent.
2. Be Straightforward.
A lot of successful men choose sugar dating because they value efficiency, and they don’t want to waste their time, so Sugar Babies should be straightforward about their needs and expectations. They should, also, feel free to ask as many questions as necessary to figure out whether a specific Sugar Daddy’s desired approach, intentions, and expectations match theirs. Early on, a Sugar Baby should address how often she’s available and/or willing to meet, and exactly what she expects in terms of gifts, shopping sprees, allowance, help with tuition, credit card payments, vacations, housing, mentorship, etc. She should, also, be honest about why she’s choosing the Sugar Baby lifestyle. Sugar Daddies like to know exactly how they’re helping out so they can feel good about their contribution to a young woman’s life.
3. Outline a Specific Mutually Beneficial Agreement.
If a Sugar Baby and Sugar Daddy click and their needs are aligned, the next step is to solidify the exact terms of the relationship. The more specific the agreement, the easier it will be for both parties to know exactly what their obligations are. Consider the following:
- What time of day will you meet up, and for how many hours?
- Where exactly will you meet (hotel, Sugar Baby’s place, Sugar Daddy’s home)?
- What will a typical date entail (theater, lunch, travel, long walks, cocktail parties, movies)?
- Will you hang out alone, or will you be seen in public together?
- When will you receive payment/gifts/etc.?
- How long do you anticipate the relationship will last?
What do each of you consider a deal breaker (failure to make timely payments, a last minute cancellation, the discovery that you’re not exclusively dating each other, or a request deemed too greedy)?
4. Never get too Comfortable and Stick to the Agreement.
Months into dating the “normal” way, you might start to get comfortable and put less effort into how you dress and/or behave, but a Sugar Baby can never slack off if she wants the relationship to last. Be your best-looking, most pleasant self at all times. The goal is to be a top-notch companion. That doesn’t mean you can’t express that you’ve had a bad day, but it does mean that you can’t meet your Sugar Daddy wearing your favorite sweats (unless that’s what your SD wants, of course).
It’s a bad idea to cancel on a Sugar Daddy, to show up late, or to change the terms of the existing arrangement. The point of establishing a concrete agreement is to avoid unwanted surprises. At the same time, rich older men tend to be extremely busy, so Sugar Babies should be prepared to be flexible about changes in their schedules. That might seem unfair, but it’s part of the unwritten code of Sugar Dating. Be accommodating—but only up to a certain extent. A Sugar Daddy should be wealthy enough to provide his Sugar Baby with her allowance or gifts or whatever’s agreed to in a timely fashion no matter what. If, at any point, payment/gift giving is stalled, consider it a red flag.
5. Be Prepared for the Worst.
No matter how well a SD/SB relationship might seem to be going, it could end at any time for any number of reasons, such as his circumstances or needs changing, discovery, whim, or (God-forbid) death, especially in the case of a significantly older Sugar Daddy. You should always have a safety net in place for yourself, just in case. If you’re in school, stay in school, complete your degree, and pursue a career. If you’re already in a career, continue working, even if only part time. Any extra money that you can save, do so, or find lucrative investments for your money, perhaps ask your Sugar Daddy for advice on building yourself a portfolio. Whatever you do, never put yourself in the position of being 100% reliant on someone else without a formal commitment like marriage, and even then, that’s never a guarantee these days, either.
The advantages of dating a Sugar Daddy go beyond the initial terms of your arrangement. As you get to know him, figure out how you can use his expertise, influence, and industry contacts to help you get ahead, not just financially but through networking and relationship building. Think of your Sugar Daddy as a mentor, advisor, friend, and confidante—someone to learn from as well as a romantic partner.
By being smart, prudent, and sensible, you can easily maintain a mutually beneficial arrangement long term. Or if you’re more inclined, move from one STA to another. Keep checking the blog for more tips, advice, and information to help you explore the Sugar Bowl safely and successfully.