A lot of us go out of our ways to try and please a POT SD when we first start out in the sugar dating world. We want these potential Sugar Daddies to desire us and find some chemistry with us, take us out on dates, and, maybe, achieve some social status in the process. We want to form a solid, mutually beneficial arrangement and keep meeting up. However, not all kinds of Sugar Baby / Sugar Daddy arrangements are going to work. You need to enter a sugar relationship that allows you to enjoy dating someone you truly like, fits your interests and dreams, and is the answer to your needs. For this, you have to learn how to avoid making the wrong type of arrangement.
In order to avoid the getting in the wrong relationship, First you need to know exactly how a Sugar Baby / Sugar Daddy can relationship works. A typical Sugar Baby is younger than most Sugar Daddies and is likely to have different interests in life. The most common attribute a Sugar Daddy has is his high income or wealth. Most of them are married, but for any number of reasons they are looking to spice up their lives with a very hot, discrete mistress. The typical Sugar Baby is a good looking girl, who is also very intelligent. A Sugar Baby / Sugar Daddy arrangement typically starts online with the help of various specialized dating sites.
The amount of money a Sugar Baby asks for will depends directly on how often SD wants to see you and how much he earns. The monthly allowance money is paid in person and, often, in untraceable cash or preloaded gift cards. However, a Sugar Baby may, also, want other benefits, such as gifts and traveling. Depending on the arrangement that you have, sex might always be expected when you meet or might be negotiable and/or optional. However, besides sexual favors or cash, sugar relationships need to be based on honesty, mutual respect, and discretion. When it comes to duration, a relationship can last for months or even for years.
In order to make such a good kind of sugar relationship work, here are some tips on how to avoid the wrong type of arrangement:
Pay-for-Play
This just means sexual favors paid for in cash even if it may sound like a type of sugar arrangement. Quite a number of SBs may have fallen victims to this as they may rush too fast into the sex part. It is a red flag if your SD asks for sex on the first date. Accepting this type of an arrangement may confuse a SD into thinking he is paying for an escort. You should never confuse the role of an escort and that of a Sugar Baby. Misunderstanding the dynamics of a SD / SB might make you lose the potential Sugar Daddy.
He Asks for “Your Rate?”
In case a potential Sugar Daddy is asking what your rate for a night is, then it seems that he is looking only for a physical engagement. A gentleman who is looking for a Sugar Baby that he is willing financial support does not come out in such a manner. Most of the times these Sugar Daddies will want to understand your intentions first, before they actually say what they want, however, these doesn’t mean you should give in if he asks your rate as it appears to be contrary to your expectations.
Nude Picture Requests
While most sugar dating sites have an option for secret photos, and there’s a certain amount of presumption that these will be NSFW type photos, anyone directly inquiring about or demanding nude, naked, or naughty photos should be seen as suspect. Providing these to someone without an existing arrangement, meaning you’ve received payments, is no guarantee that an arrangement is forthcoming. Requesting for nudes from a Sugar Baby is a red flag indicating a perverted man and not a true SD. As a Sugar Baby you should not just give out nude pictures especially if you aren’t familiar with the person. If he really wants to get nudes from you then it will be done with mutual understanding between the both of you.
Sex, Sex, Sex
When it comes to arrangements, it is an immediate red flag if your POT SD is bringing up the sex topic too soon or at the first date. Sex might happen, if chemistry is there and, also, if you have found the Sugar Daddy you want. But getting there should be something you both want to occur, and it should unfold naturally. However, in case that you are looking only for something purely platonic, you should ensure that your profile is stating this clearly, so only Sugar Daddies with similar interests will contact you. While many assume that sugar dating is a cover for prostitution, you should be quick to educate people otherwise. Sugar Babies are meant to be companions, not just sex dolls, and a real Sugar Daddy will be looking for a real Sugar Baby and will want a real relationship.
Abuse of Any Kind
It should go without saying that you should not enter into or continue a SD/SB arrangement with anyone who hits you or threatens to hit you. However, abuse can take on many forms and most of them doesn’t leave a single visible mark. The childhood adage about sticks and stones is a gross lie we tell ourselves or tell others to pretend we don’t care, but words can cut deeper than any blade. Do not let anyone, let alone a Sugar Daddy, convince you that you are worthless, stupid, selfish, or dirty. Narcissistic and abusive SDs seek to tear you down and elevate themselves, while real Sugar Daddies will want to encourage you to be the best Sugar Baby and woman that you can be. Real SDs are looking for a companion a not slave.
